Why women have affairs?
Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause despair, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married women for dating.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking an affair. I am sure generally though it is only the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos humanity has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your assets are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the husband is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.